Change? It’s an inside job!

Did you know that most of the beliefs we hold about ourselves and the world around us come from our early years?

From birth to about six years of age we are downloading information into our subconscious mind. This information creates the ‘programmes’ we run in our minds, our ‘scripts’.

The beliefs we form about ourselves and the world in which we live have a huge impact on us.

We form those beliefs and make those patterns of behaviour from the conclusions we draw from our experiences.

No trauma or experience is ever too small or insignificant.

What’s important is the impact it has on us and how we live our lives.

Dr Bruce Lipton states:

“For the first six years of a child’s life, it’s like a tape recorder is on. Everything it sees, smells, touches and experiences in any way, whatever it hears is being downloaded into the brain before the consciousness of the child is even made apparent”.  

So when we want to make changes to the way we live our lives, to improve our relationships and how we function day to day – we need to look within! We need to tap into our subconscious mind and reset those beliefs.

When we understand how as humans we have an energy body as well as a physical body, that the energy of who we are is as important as our physical self it can open up a whole new approach for us.

We can change our mindset, break free and be who we want to be and have what we truly desire!

So what are you searching for?

Do you wish life could be different? That you had more confidence and less fear?

Is there something you’d really love to do but a nagging voice inside your head convinces you that you wouldn’t be good enough?

When we look to make changes, it’s the inner work that brings us the lasting change, the ability to become who we really want to be.

The greatest gift we can give ourselves is to heal our limiting beliefs, to enjoy healthy, loving and  meaningful  relationships. To step into our power, let go of our fears and really live an authentic life.

A life where we are comfortable in our own skin, where we accept ourselves for who we are.

Here are a few tips for you on the journey to yourself:


1. E.F.T. and Matrix Reimprinting

My go to tool for clearing my ‘stuff’ is E.F.T. and Matrix Reimprinting. In all my years of working in the world of healing I have found that EFT (and Matrix Reimprinting which is a form of EFT) really can get to the root cause of what it is that’s causing you a problem. So be it fear and anxiety based or a feeling of not being good enough or any myriad of potential issues – give EFT a go.

It can look a bit ‘woo woo’ when you first come across it but the results it offers are well worth suspending judgement!

It’s okay to be sceptical in the first instance, I know I was! I remember thinking “Oh sure you just tap a few points and your sorted!” But when I really studied, experienced and trained in EFT I realised the power of this therapy. Just give it a try!


2. Don’t compare yourself to others.

Decide not to compare who you are with others. So often the lives of others can appear to be wonderful, but things aren’t always as they appear, so comparison is futile.

You are a unique human being, that’s what so wonderful about you. There is only one you and that’s what makes you special. Celebrate your uniqueness and don’t try to be a copy of someone else.


3. Get clear on what you want!

Use your mind to focus on what you do want. Often we are clear about what we don’t want or like but don’t always give ourselves time to get clear about where we’re going and what we want to do.

Think about it, if you were going to make a journey to a place you’d never visited before you would make a plan, check out the trains or the route by road or air. Setting intentions of what we’d like to do and who we’d like to be really helps! Worrying is like focussing all your attention on what you don’t  want

(Tip: if when you’re coming up with all those wonderful goals and desires and a little voice pops into your mind, you know, the voice that says ” yes but…..that’s for others, not for you….etc etc” you can use tapping to clear the ‘yes buts’ and other internal blocks – the ‘yes buts’ are actually really helpful as they help you see into your subconscious thought process)


4. Meditate and Visualise

Meditation and visualisation will also take advantage of your wonderful subconscious. Meditation helps us to get into the flow, to clear our minds and settle our energy. Whilst visualisation uses your imagination to make pictures in your mind of what you want.

Your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between what is real or not. So if you keep playing that film of how you’d like your life to be your subconscious kicks in to help support you to make it a reality! (Tapping the finger points whilst you do this makes the exercise even more powerful).

5. The first and last five minutes of your day

The thoughts and pictures we have in our mind as we go to sleep, the last five minutes of our day, are minutes we’d be wise to use to our advantage.

Be sure to be grateful for the good stuff of the day, to keep positive images and thoughts in your mind as you drift off to sleep (whilst you sleep your subconscious will be ‘marinating’ in what you’ve been focused on!

Likewise with the first five minutes of your day, have an attitude of gratitude and a focus on where you want to be. See your day in beautiful images in your mind, set your positive intentions.

Hope these tips help!

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