So, who’d have thought a tiny little three year old could be such a brilliant teacher (and she’s no idea she’s teaching me anything)!
She’s just herself; free, not at all self conscious; she’s curious; she’s funny and joyous; she has no hidden agenda and is oh so full of love.
When she’s with me we have so much fun (something that hasn’t always come easily to me!) she loves music and dancing and we often shake our stuff around the kitchen, laughing and being totally in the moment!
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if she were to keep this energy about her – breezing through life, undamaged and unhindered.
Maybe we all started our lives in this way – maybe we didn’t?
How we evolve as people depends so much on:
- our personal experiences
- our family background
- the words that are regularly spoken to us
- our feeling of security or lack of it
- how our experiences shape our view of ourselves and the world around us
- the limiting beliefs we forge as a result of our experience
To enjoy that wonderful feeling of just being okay with who we are, not caring what others think of us – even if we haven’t been fortunate enough to experience great self esteem and self confidence as we’ve grown into adult hood – just because that hasn’t been our story thus far doesn’t mean it never can be.
Whatever stage we are in life there is always time, it really is never too late to be who you really want to be!
Being self conscious and not wanting to be seen has stopped me from having fun in the past. I just couldn’t relax and let go. I was always too busy comparing myself to others.
As for living in the moment – how can you do that when you’re always worrying about all sorts of things? Stressing about the past, fretting about the future – just existing in this uncomfortable place of existence.
But when you find a way to free yourself of the baggage that weighs you down it is so very liberating.
It takes time I know but it’s oh so worth it. I’m not sure I like the term ‘personal development’ – I think of it more in terms of stepping into who you were always meant to be – when you’re free of what’s weighing you down.
Imagine being able to really experience joy and happiness. To look in the mirror and feel really comfortable with the person looking back at you.
For example, my grand daughter has no fear of failure or judgement, she loves having a go at new things, if it doesn’t quite work out she’ll just try another way. And she’s always ready to ask for help if she gets stuck. She has no ‘downloads’ of limiting beliefs, no hang ups about how she looks and behaves.
She loves music and dancing and just does that thing that some adults refer to as ‘dancing as though no one is watching’ – but we are watching and delighting in her freedom of expression. She’s not bothered if her moves aren’t quite right – there’s no element of self consciousness – she’s just free and being in the moment.
She’s like a little sponge, so interested in everything and always wanting to learn how to do new things. It doesn’t enter her head that she may be judged or fail.
But what can you do if you have beliefs about yourself that prevent you from living the life you would choose. Maybe you subconsciously believe you don’t deserve it or maybe that you’re not good enough.
There is much we can do to support ourselves and free ourselves of limiting beliefs. Dr Bruce Lipton says we are not stuck with any aspects of ourselves that we would love to change – you can find many of his talks on YouTube . He’s a great believer in the various energy psychology disciplines of which EFT and Matrix Reimprinting (an EFT technique), are a part.
Performers like Michael Ball and Naomie Harris use EFT and athletes were seen using it at the Rio Olympics!
If you feel ready to let go of your limiting beliefs, to move forward into being who you really want to be, just drop me a line and we can have a chat about what your needs are, I’d love to hear from you!